BEING REAL ABOUT CHANGE one moment at a time
M. Scott Peck's best seller began famously: "Life is Difficult." While I agreed with him whole heartedly 25 years ago and still do, I'm more aware today of the nuances, difficulties and my own ability to be present to life and changes especially when they present themselves as difficulties or challenges. In other words, the parameters of what constitutes difficult has changed for me. It's been a journey. For so long I saw events, people or situations in black or white; good or bad in and of themselves. If "a" happens its good, if "b" happens it will be bad--very, very bad. What I realize now is that that kind of thinking and responding created its very own kind of hell and suffering. Because "b" happens a fair bit of the time--and if I allow myself to only see "a" as good...and allow no room for "b" "c...